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When we express appreciation to our children we give them a sense of significance; this appreciation is one of the cornerstones of connecting to our children. Acceptance of our kids tells them that their being matters. Expressing our appreciation to them says that their doing matters too. Appreciation gives people a sense of significance — feeling that they are valued and that their accomplishments do make a difference to someone.
Parents should show appreciation for their children not only for the sake of their children’s self-esteem, but for improving discipline in the home as well. The more you praise your children for what they are doing right, the less you have to criticize and discipline them for doing something wrong. Many parents struggle with finding the right words to say or knowing what to praise.
It isn’t a matter of not being able to find things to appreciate about your kids; it’s about disciplining yourself to speak up and tell your kids what you see — to give them honest praise for their effort. Some practical examples:
* “Thank you for getting your homework done on time.”
* “I appreciate it when you take your dirty dishes to the sink after we eat.”
* “Thank you for putting the car in the garage for me without being asked.”
* “I appreciate you for spending time with your little sister when you wanted to be out with your friends.”
Honestly accepting them for who they are is necessary to their well-being as it makes them feel secure and comfortable for who they are.
For no particular reason say ‘Thank you Aba, I love You and thank you for giving me life!’
